Who runs the world?

When I was young I always thought the woman's fight for equality was a battle mostly fought by my mother's generation (and those previous). I thought the only fights left to be had were salary differences. The only time I experienced gender inequality was in gym class, and if I'm being honest, I really couldn't catch so the boys were pretty justified in not passing to me. But this past year has, unfortunately, taught me that's not true.

At work, when you act like ‘one of the boys’, they call you abrasive and difficult. So, if you act like a woman, they say you’re emotional and difficult. So, difficult is really just the word for anything that isn’t a man.
— I Don't Know How She Does It

That quote might be from a movie, but if the shoe fits... because this is totally how I feel! I'm a pretty blunt person, when there's a problem I want to address it right away, but when I do I get "handled". It's a tone that just says, "Woman, I will not deal with your emotional state because I know you cannot think clearly during it." Excuse me, I am upset, but I can discuss this properly, it's that tone that will make me go a little nutty.

At the end of the day I think about my best friend, who is bold in everything that she does and always has been. She is unapologetically herself and I think she knows who she is better for it. I have to be me too, and I want those around me, personally and professionally, to know exactly who that is too.

Hello world!

Well, here goes nothing. And apparently those are going to be my first words on here. Ha! My name is Tori, if you couldn't tell by the name of the website. This is me and my little family.

me, luna, nemu, coco, tim, mojo

me, luna, nemu, coco, tim, mojo

I am starting this blog to document a new phase of my life. I am a year out of school, in my first career job and everything is going well-ish. I studied graphic design in school and that's what I got a job in. Hooray! However, I find myself creatively unfulfilled, so I want to find ways to satisfy that thirst and document that here. I am 100% sure that there are other people out there who feel like they're in the same boat as me and I want this to be a place for us to talk and encourage each other and mostly learn from each other. I read a lot of blogs that are written by awesome girls who are awesome freelancers and creators, which is where I want to be, but I don't know of anyone who talks (transparently) about getting to that independent point of life. I will absolutely elaborate more on everything in future posts, but I think this is a good genesis.